I’ve heard it said so often, in the debate about keeping kids safe online, that parents must know what their kids are up to.
By the way, I’ve said it too, more than once or twice!
Allow me to rethink that position.
I was going to say you could probably monitor a three year old. Then I remembered that my 3yr old neighbor needed to do something naughty outside my house the other day and had enough sense to ask me to shut the door! Hahahaha! By the way, I obliged him and shut it. I gave him the space he needed to mess about with the gravel like he wanted to… Well after two minutes, I did ask him to allow me to open the door; at ”permission granted,” I got him to clear the mess created..
What’s my point?
If a two year old feels the need for privacy, how much more the 12, 13, 14, 15, 16 year old?
Let’s get real…
Demanding to know what kids are up to online; snooping to see what company they’re keeping etc, etc may only accentuate the natural tendency to conflict between children and adults.
So, how shall we offer much needed guidance without creating a ”Beirut” in our homes?
Start early enough to develop safe online practices? Good idea.
Communicate consistently the values of your family from an early age? Really good idea.
Train in responsibility from early ages? Excellent strategy.
Suppose the milk has already spilt? Your young one is already adolescent…and untrained? What then?
I admit it’s a little more challenging… Perhaps though, communication can be initiated on the merits and demerits of this, this, this and that? Of course, communication is certainly not a lecture; not a monologue; not a situation where I, the adult, assume the guru position.
Communication is dialogue… two way… listening…
let’s hear your thoughts on this conversation.